After reading the book of Elaine Aron ‘ The Highly Sensitive Person ‘ I was quite convinced that I am an HSP too. And it’s a must-read if you are one of us too. About 20% of the people out there are highly sensitive, so it’s quite common. And after that, I’ve read a couple more books, but a lot of them were lacking a couple of things. Which is how to deal with it.
To begin with, if you are a highly sensitive person, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! It’s not a disease, nor is it a psychiatric disorder. It’s just something that defines who you are and why you are experiencing what you are experiencing.
However, it can be quite a challenge to go through daily life for some people if you haven’t found a couple of ways to cope with your sensitivity. Luckily, I’ve had some experience with it already and I’ve decided to share what was working for me, and hopefully will work for you too.
Highly Sensitive Person Symptoms
For those of you who aren’t sure yet if they are or aren’t a highly sensitive person, I’ve got here a couple of symptoms that are related to being highly sensitive. There are quite a few, and if you want to have more clarity about them, I’d suggest you do this test here to see if you are remotely close to being an HSP.
#1 The Need of Alone Time
Of course, we all need some time alone now and then. But the biggest difference between a regular person and an introverted HSP is that someone highly sensitive often needs alone time to unwind. Also known as withdrawing yourself. The big difference is that you feel that you are completely sucked dry by your environment, or it feels that you overloaded your whole system.
#2 Being Emotionally Overwhelmed
Everyone has a normal emotional reaction, but if you feel that sometimes you experience more emotions than any other human being, it might be that you are highly sensitive as well. I even have it when I’m looking at cute puppies on YouTube that do amazing things, I just start to cry and can’t stop. I’m not even going to share them here to prevent you from starting to cry!
As an HSP you are also affected by the emotions of others, so make sure that you be aware of this when you are emotional. More about this down below.
#3 Caffeine Sensitivity
Highly Sensitive Persons are known for their sensitivity of caffeine, and probably other products as well. This means that you go into hyper-drive when you are drinking this liquid! This occasionally isn’t too bad, but your heart rate will go up as well, which then might cause anxiety. Which then will be hyphened as you’re emotionally more vulnerable. Therefore, try to stay away from coffee.
In my own life, I’ve discovered that I have been very sensitive to other products as well, like Codeine. Which is in a lot of painkillers. It didn’t make me go insane but it kind of had the same effect as being on weed. Which was quite fun for me, and cheap as well, but when I found out that I’m quite sensitive, I throw the pills away.
If you do like to drink some coffee, make sure you read my article about homemade coffee from acorns!
Dealing With HSP
These are just a couple of things that people with HSP have to deal with, click on one of the links to see what more signals might be saying that you are highly sensitive. We are now going to continue to see what you can do to deal with being highly sensitive. As you know, life goes on.
#1 Schedule Alone Time
As I’ve said before, highly sensitive people should be aware that they need some alone time. So make sure that you schedule in some time for yourself BEFORE your whole system goes into a meltdown. Scheduling it in is quite easy, sticking to it is something else.
A lot of highly sensitive people have a hard time saying no, as this might seem egocentric. But think of this, how can you help others, if you are not helping yourself?
Some activities you can do to make your alone time as comfortable as possible are doing some meditation or yoga. But it can also be reading a book (read something romantic to shut your brain down instead of reading a very informative book). Find what you love to do and do it all by yourself.
#2 Go Into Nature
This one is also very easy to do, and you can even do it in your alone time. If you do want someone to join you, make sure that person is someone who energizes you and not someone who sucks your energy. You are there to connect with yourself and nature again, to recharge your batteries, not to help others with their problems.
Within this step, I’m also going to include that it’s quite important to get some plants into your home. If you’re not that great with flowers, get a couple of cacti! They don’t need a lot of attention, but you’ll get a relaxing feeling from the green that’s inside of your house. I try to make sure that every room in my house has at least one plant inside!
Another tip, try to go on a nature retreat now and then. Book a cabin in the woods, or near the beach or a lake. Go somewhere where there aren’t that many people. This is especially effective when you are living in the city.
#3 Cleanse Your Energy
And now, to my favorite part of this article, cleansing your energy. As a highly sensitive person you’ll be affected by other people’s moods and energy, therefore, it’s a good idea to cleanse your energy field every once in a while. Or when you work with a lot of people it’s even good to do this every single day. Luckily there are many ways to do this, so you can vary it!
#3.1 Smudging with Sage
White sage has been used throughout centuries already and it’s still quite effective up until today! You can find them easily in spiritual shops or you can even buy them at amazon these days! I love smudging myself a lot, however, the scent is not for everyone. So if you are having roommates or your family isn’t a big fan of the smell, make sure you do it in a space that isn’t used that often.
How to do it is very easy. Light the sage stick until it starts smoking. I’d even say the more smoke the better. Make sure that you whirl yourself into the smoke and don’t forget any parts of your body. This even means that you have to lift your feet to get the smoke underneath them.
Just make sure that there is an open window nearby as the smoke can be very thick and might irritate your eyes a little bit.
After you’re done, make sure you extinguish the sage in some salt. This to make sure that it doesn’t keep smoking until it’s all gone. Just to make sure that you can use the sage a couple of times. One smudge stick lasts me about 6 months, and I use it about once a week.
#3.2 Taking a Bath With Bath Salts
Salt also has some cleansing properties as well. So if you aren’t living close to the ocean or any kind of saltwater, it might be nice to take a bath with bath salts. You can buy them almost anywhere and they are also scented, so you can use whichever scent that you like.
This also combines quite well with the alone time. So by doing this, you hit two birds with one stone.
Another great way to cleanse your aura is by visualization meditations. These are easy to do as well and yet again, a great way to combine with some alone time! There are many great meditations out there, so look on the web to see if you can find one that is fitting for you. In this article, I’ve talked about the app Insight Timer, which is a great way to do some visualization meditations on the go!
I’ve put one here as well to give you an example of what you have to look for. If this one already isn’t fitting for you of course. If you like this one, then you can hold on to it and do it whenever you’d like!
#4 Eat Healthier
Have you ever thought about this: If your brain is already very sensitive, how do you think your body reacts? Meaning: if you got a hard time controling your emotions and looking at what’s yours and what’s from another person, this also means that you are more sensitive when it comes down to food.
Try to eat as healthy as you can as your body is a sponge as well. So if the mind’s not doing well, how do you think your body is doing? I’ve already got a couple of articles where I talk about homemade gummies, that are healthy and great when you are trying to live healthier. But also try to replace your sodas with some great teas that you can easily brew yourself! And have a look at this breakfast with all kinds of homemade products.
It’s a bit like the chicken and the egg. We don’t truly know the relationship with body and mind. But they are connected. This means that if your body is not doing so well, mostly your mind isn’t either and vice versa. Not only that, but you are already sensitive to what others are feeling and saying and thinking, which can translate itself into starting to eat more to feel more grounded. Which is another reason why it would be good to consume some healthier foods.
There are many more things to say and to do when you are highly sensitive, but I’m afraid I have to wrap it up now to have some alone time myself. Anyway, if you have more questions about being HSP, feel free to ask them in the comment section below or to send me an email. I will try to do my best to answer your questions and guide you in whatever way I can.